- Have you often felt hurt, ashamed or embarassed by the sexual behavior of a family member or friend?
- Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear of his or her reaction?
- Do you hesitate to tell your parents or other adult about problems you are having because you feel they have their own problems to deal with?
- Have you sometimes found yourselt searching for clues about a relative or friend's sexual behavior?
- Has a family member ever asked you to spy on the sexaholic or to tell what you know about the sexaholic's behavior?
- Have you felt you were responsible for the sexual behavior of a parent, family member or friend?
- Has one of your parents or family members shared adult information with you that made you feel uncomfortable?
- Have you lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person's sexual conduct?
- Have you felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not when talking with the sexaholic?
- Have you or other members of your family ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone else's sexual behavior?
- Have you been sexually abused or been aware that other family members were being abused?
- Are you afraid to be alone with the sexaholic?
- Has a family member or friend been in jail or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or do you fear that this kind of thing will happen?
- Are you having problems keeping up with schoolwork or other responsibilities due to problems at home?
- Have you felt responsible for the safety and happiness of your siblings or other family members?
- Does the sexaholic make comments or show that he or she is sexually interested in you or any of your friends?
- Do you often feel you hate one or both of your parents?
- Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
- Do you feel embarrassed to ask for help?
- Do you feel alone in your problem?
If you can answer “yes” to even some of these questions, you may find help in S-Ateen.
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