Is This You?

  • Have you felt hurt or been embarassed by another person's sexual behavior?
  • Have you secretly searched for clues about another person's sexual behavior?
  • Have you lied or covered up another person's sexual conduct?
  • Have you had money problems because of another person's sexual behavior?
  • Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by someone you loved and trusted?
  • Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic because you think he or she will leave you?
  • Have you tried to control someone's sexual thoughts or behavior by throwing out pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them to keep them from being sexual with others?
  • Have you used sex to try to keep peace in a relationship?
  • Have you tried to convince yourself that someone else's sexual thoughts shouldn't bother you?
  • Have you felt sex plays an all-consuming role in your relationship?
  • Have you doubted your attractiveness, your emotions, or your sanity?
  • Have you felt responsible for the sexual behavior of another person?
  • Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not knowing about someone's sexual acting out behavior?
  • Have you engaged in uncomfortable, unwanted, or physically dangerous sexual behavior?
  • Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone's sexual behavior?
  • Has your preoccupation with someone's sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationship with your children, your co-workers, and/or other friends or family members?
  • Have you neglected your physical and/or emotional health while in a relationship?
  • Have you helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble, or feared legal action as a result of his or her sexual behavior?
  • Have you blamed other people, such as friends or sexual partners, society in general, his/her job, religion, or birth family for someone's sexual behavior?
  • Have you felt confused about what is true when talking with someone about his or her sexual thoughts or behavior?
  • Have you avoided painful emotions by using drugs, alcohol, or food or by being too busy?
  • Have you ever felt that someone was inappropriately attracted to you or your children?
  • Have you felt alone or too ashamed to ask for help?

If you can answer “yes” to some of these questions, you may find help in S-Anon.

Reprinted with permission of S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc., Nashville, TN. Compliance with S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc.'s copyrights and trademarks is required.